The Magic of Choice

This article is different to any one I have written before because it starts out being all about me. But you see why in a moment.

You may have noticed that while I normally produce two newsletters a month, in July there was only one, and we had to reschedule the July teleclass. This was because my personal life became a huge stumbling block to getting anything done. Ironic as the topic of the teleclass was getting unstuck!

Sometimes though, life gets in the way and some of you picked up on the vibes- thanks for your good wishes when I had to rearrange the teleclass.

And what were these momentous events that caused me to totally rearrange my schedule? Well, after a year of difficulties I have decided to divorce my husband of 23 years. This is not something I wanted to do but because of choices he has made I have to do it. The children understand as well as they can and we are all supporting each other through this difficult time. So, gulp, I had to take all my emotional energy from other places and temporarily put it towards making this decision.

So July had to be devoted to other things.

But I have learned so much through this process. I have been on a journey that began some months ago and though the decision I made in July was a major milestone the journey continues. And through it all I know I have the strength, the power, the hope and the joy that comes from being true to yourself, loving others and being at one with the universe in an authentic and honest way.

And this is what I want for you.

So often we are stuck because of our fear and pain. The fear that I had made me totally stuck. I knew the decision I had to make would cause pain. But this decision making process began a year ago when I decided I would not be hasty. The pain of divorce, I thought then, would be greater than the difficulties of staying together.

It was only when I became aware that the pain of staying together would destroy me that I began to accept the alternative.

Now to most people with an emotional eating problem there is a pain attached to changing eating habits. Giving up food, or changing eating habits or even keeping the same (already healthy) habits but feeling differently about them - this can mean loss or deprivation or fear. And for some people the feeling is so strong it might be described as emotional desolation.

If you are at that part of your eating evolution you will stay stuck, as the pain of being different is greater than the pain of staying stuck. This is because you see the change as being work, a chore, something you have to do. Or it's just not you, it doesn't feel like something you could do easily. It's not something you could do in the short term and the long term is too far away. Stuckness leads to the pain of frustration but moving out of stuckness means (you imagine) putting yourself in the position of gut-wrenching, soul-searing, heart-breaking change. And as you stand on the precipice of change, stuckness seems OK. Nothing, you think, can give you the courage to move forward.

Well, having stood on the precipice, all I can say is, yes, it is gut-wrenching but only for a microsecond. Then when you make your decision, suddenly you find yourself moving forward into a different landscape. Sure, there are uncertainties. But nothing, as you stand in that different place, is as drab and grey and energy-draining as when you were stuck.

So get help to realise your dreams and to have your true heart's desire. Find out what really rocks your socks. Get a coach who will help you tap into your wonderfulness. Then you will soar.

Yours in freedom,
Liz

P.S. Sometimes you have to let go of what you have now in order to have a better future. What are you ready to release in order to have more?

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